I was reading a post, The Six Reasons Marriage Counseling is BS, and this is one thing that really struck me:
"Chances are good that you married an imperfect man who’s perfect for you. Instead of trying to pry his feelings out of him, consider bringing respect back into the relationship by honoring your husband’s masculinity and his choices for himself. If you want more passion in your marriage, there’s no stronger aphrodisiac than respect."
Something to think about.